September 9, 2010 at 12:13 pm #1062
with EJ’s medical directive. All Sami has to do is agree with any decision Stefano makes. It’s not like SHE has do it. So stupid!
Boy, that EJ sure is an efficient one, changing his living will before they even got married. Who would be thinking that far ahead?
I understand from what was said, it wasn’t only his medical directive but also his durable power of attorney he had assigned to Sami. Me thinks THIS part of it is going to come into play, not a medical decision.September 9, 2010 at 3:43 pm #16095trykeryderParticipant
When I had my living will drawn up, it was required that there was a durable power of attorney filed along with it. The 2 go hand in hand.September 9, 2010 at 4:00 pm #16096
they do not have to be the same people. Sami could have been on his medical directive and, say, Stefano have his POA.September 9, 2010 at 4:25 pm #16097DeeLanParticipant
There are 2 POA’s. You an have a Medical Power of Attorney who makes medical decisions if you’re unable to make them yourself and that’s all they can do which is probably where Sami comes in. A Legal Power of Attorney is totally different and I really can’t see anyone giving Sami that much power.
But you’re right, a Medical POA is just the person who has the final say but doesn’t have to come to any decisions on their own.September 9, 2010 at 9:32 pm #16107PattiParticipant
that includes a medical directive as well as a financial decision directive appointing my two sons to act as my attorneys in all matters. After discussing it with my sons, it is stipulated, under no uncertain circumstance, that my eldest son has the power to make any medical decision(s) on my behalf, acting as my attorney, should I become permanently incapacitated so as to be classified as ‘brain dead’ or in a ‘vegetative state of mind and body’ with no hope of recovery. It also includes a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate), which may or may not be redundant, but that’s the way I wanted it prepared, and my younger son holds my designated power of attorney with regard to finances and matters of acting on my behalf with regard to the sale of personal property and any other decisions relating to my finances. This is what the three of us agreed to years ago, and they both know that I trust them to share their responsibilities and, above all, to do as I wish (or I’ll come back and haunt the hell out of both of them.) LOLSeptember 9, 2010 at 10:35 pm #16109DeeLanParticipant
The DNR may be redundant but did you know even if you have a living will it’s up to your family, next of kin or medical POA to have it enforced or not. They can rescind it at any time.
I’ve always thought that was rediculous to have one if it doesn’t have to be enforced but it does help the family know what you wanted. Before my dad died I knew what he wanted and didn’t want because we talked about it and my mom left it up to me to make any decisions. My mom never talked about anything and when the time came to make decisions I knew in my head what I needed to do but I couldn’t say the words "STOP". Finally her doc was of for the weekend and his associate was on call. He and I sat and he suggested things we’d do and not do. All I had to do was agree to each item he listed and we had the DNR in place BUT I didn’t have to initiate the conversation. Since my mom’s kidneys had shut down as a result of her heart not working properly and she was already on a ventilator with a temporary pacemaker in place (done before I got to the hospital) we decided she’d stay on the vent and pacemaker but if something happened we wouldn’t make any adjustments to the settings. We wouldn’t start dialysis in the hopes that her heart would start functioning properly and then hope her kidneys would start but because of the toxins building up in her system and the effect they’d have on her brain we gave her an IV of Valium so she wouldn’t be aware. All her meds would stay the same but we wouldn’t increase or decrease any doses if needed. In otherwords we didnt’ take anything away but nothing more heroic would be done to keep her alive when these weren’t enough anymore.September 9, 2010 at 10:58 pm #16111
mine is set up too, Patti. Good thing we both have two sons, huh?
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